Oh, HELL no!

Grounding the kids is never fun, but sometimes it is necessary and of course, it is up to me as the parent to dispense the proper punishments for certain "crimes" perpetrated by the youngin's. :sigh: The real serious groundings seem reserved for teen broody pants because he can be the biggest trouble maker of the brood (for the time being...). He loses out on phone time, XBox, social time, going out, hanging out and other shit like that. All the things that he finds to be the most important things in his life. It ends up being his own attitude and pissy, bitchy behavior that gets him deeper into trouble because he refuses to take responsibility for his actions and refuses to control his own behaviors, especially when he has gone into full on brood mode. It's such a pain in the ass.

It's not that I like to take away his privileges and have him be all miserable, but in trying to be an active parent and do my parenting job, he has to learn that there are consequences to his actions. What makes it suck all the more is the fact that when he goes into his bitchy little "whatever" mode, he becomes the victim and everything is unfair and everyone hates him and blah, blah, blah, blah..... Pfft. And the original message and the reasons WHY he got grounded in the first place become lost because he's so focused on how rotten his life is.... :s

Then he's got to turn up the "worse", to "Oh, no the FUCK you didn't!" STILL not understanding that it is his own actions that is landing him first in hot water before meeting a nuclear holocaust. I mean, he's admitted to me in the past that he does things just to be a pain in the ass, and has also admitted that it really doesn't do him a whole hell of a lot of good, but he was going to continue to do it anyway. I don't understand his logic, but there you have it. So, we continue on with this shit that leads to much frustration and pissiness which is ALWAYS full so SO MUCH AWESOME FUN! (That should be read in a REALLY sarcastic tone, eye twitching, nostrils flaring, forehead vein throbbing...)

We always go back and discuss where he went wrong. Sometimes he knows, and other times he continues to be a pissy little bitch. I'll do my best to walk away and keep him sequestered in his room when he gets like that, but sometimes, he just HAS to cross that line again and something else gets taken away from him. And it's temper tantrum city again....

I get told that he will eventually grow out of this when his hormones balance out. That someday, I will look back on all of this and laugh about it. How someday I will laugh even harder when his own children are driving him up a wall much in the same way he is driving me nuts right now. In the meantime..... Grrrr........